Have A Bespoken New Year!

Happy New Year! We know that you have probably heard that about 15 million times since the clock struck twelve, but being able to say "Happy New Year" only happens once every, you know, year. Along with the champagne toasts and parties comes many new hopes, dreams and cute gifts at Bespoken. We have just finished up picking out some great new products at the market in Atlanta, and we are so excited to get them into the shop! 

With all of our great plans for Bespoken, we are following the advice of this little list to stay on track. We hope that it helps you tackle all of your goals too! 

“The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.” - H. Jackson Brown Jr.


Pumpkins, pumpkins everywhere

First impressions are important, and your front porch is no exception. Fall is here, which means all shapes, sizes and colors of pumpkins are available for you to spice up the entrance to your home. Take a look through these decorating ideas from Southern Living to create a festive first impression for your family and friends! 


Wedding Gifts: Explained

Weddings. They are a great source of happiness and joy, but they can also be downright confusing when it comes to giving a gift.  Since Bespoken already has you covered on every amazing gift that you could ever need for a wedding celebration, we thought it might be helpful to clarify when to give as well.

If you are invited to the ceremony, it is customary to send a gift.

This holds true even if you are not able to attend, but only applies if you are formally invited to the actual wedding ceremony. That being said, if you are invited to a belated wedding reception (after a destination wedding or elopement) giving a gift is not obligatory, although many people give one anyway. Wedding announcements do not require gifts to be set either, but many friends and family members still do.

Don’t wait a year to send a gift.

As with most things, the sooner the better, so getting the gift giving done by the wedding, or within three months is preferable. For those of the receiving end of the gifts, it is best to send out your thank-you letters as soon as possible, or up to three months after the wedding. Although, if you miss the three month mark, it is better to send the thank-you letters late than to never send them at all. 

Even if your friend didn’t give you a gift, it is still proper to give one to them.

 It is important to hold yourself to a higher standard, and follow etiquette by giving a gift to the happy couple, even if they did not do the same for you. As your mother would say, “two wrongs do not make a right.” Do not make the same mistake that your friend made, and if you are truly upset about their lack of giving, it is best to have a conversation with them rather than retaliate.

Attending a destination wedding does not mean that you don’t give a gift.

Even though attending a destination wedding can be pricey, it does not need to be used as an excuse to not give a gift. That being said, you also have a right to reflect on your financial situation, and decide on how much you can spend on a gift for the couple. Trust me, they will understand if you don’t present them with a cherry red Ferrari.

Give gifts for both the shower and the wedding.  

 When attending a shower, it is customary to give a gift, if you do not attend a shower, then you are not obligated to give a gift. The shower and wedding ceremony are counted as two separate events, so you still have the responsibility of giving a gift at the actual wedding as well. If there are multiple showers, you don’t have to give a gift at each one, just at the shower that you feel most comfortable giving at, or you can divide your gifting budget over the course of all of the showers.

If you gave at the first marriage, you do not have to give for the second.

 Second marriages are common, but if you attended the bride or groom’s first wedding ceremony and gave a gift, you are not obligated to give at the second. If the couple has requested that no gifts be given, then it is nice to respect those wishes, although some friends and family will always want to give a gift.

Even though a lot of this may see pomp and arbitrary, they are honestly just governed by good manners and common sense. Just remember to give thoughtfully and to thank graciously. 


Every home needs character

When you think of your home, does the word "character" come to mind? If not, maybe it is time to get some antiques in your life. Unlike new, store bought items, the only label present on an antique is to inform you of what it was, but never clarifies all of the things that it could be. For instance, if you buy a bowl from Wal-Mart, odds are you are going to put your cereal in it, but with an antique bowl, the list of uses is much more broad. Make it into a planter, display it in on a shelf, use it to hold you rings or necklaces, or, you know, just put cereal in it. The point is, antiques provide an endless realm of creative possibilities for you to explore. 

Take a look at this list of ideas for vintage/antique finds to provide yourself with some inspiration!